I Think R/BenignExistence Is My Favorite Subreddit 🥲 I Love These Pleasant Little Glimpses Into Strangers'

imagine you are fifteen years old taking your little sister to the grocery store because your dad is busy and your grandmother is old and you need food. as you turn a corner you accidentally ram your shopping cart into God with a capital G and he promises to show you the world you’ve never seen from inside the ten square miles of your hometown in exchange for your company. you hate the risk but your demigod sister has untapped potential and an unrelenting determination to get ghost, so you follow God with a capital G through heaven and hell and back. God with a capital G is twelve and wiser than even your grandmother and treats everything like a game and he’s your brother now and suddenly you would (and have and will) kill and die for him. your first love becomes a different god and you add her name to the list of things (your childhood, your vulnerability, your parents, your safety) you don’t have the time to grieve right now (or ever) and you become a man on foreign soil and your dad isn’t there to see it. you are fifteen and God with a capital G’s best friend and your little sister– sisters, now– are the most powerful demigods on the planet and you are the only one keeping three divine tweens focused on saving the world and you are still not allowed to say fuck.

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To Wong Foo Thanks for Everything, Julie Newmar (1995)

Dir. Beeban Kidron

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oh fuck *falls back into old habits* *screen fades to black* *level loading* TIP: your belief that you are incapable of changing for the better will become a self fulfilling prophecy if left unchallenged

A brief moment of rationality from the bird place.

I like when people say things like “respect blue collar workers!” and then the same people turn around and completely dismiss the years of training it takes to be able to do that type of work safely and effectively.

“Telling people not to do their own electrical work because it’s dangerous is classist bc not everyone can afford an electrician” “I can’t believe that plumber charged me so much money for less than an hour of work, what a scam!” “In the post-capitalist utopia everyone will just take turns doing all types of blue-collar work, instead of years-long apprenticeships we’ll just give them a course in high school or something” “Building and safety codes are just pointless bureaucracy meant to stop the average citizen from being able to build their own structures” “I would love to be a farmer and just hang out tending to plants all day”

These are all things I have seen on this website by self-proclaimed worker’s rights advocates and I hope I don’t have to explain how incredibly insulting and dismissive it is when it’s not outright dangerous. There’s a LOT that needs to be fixed about our current labor system but “pretending like training and safety protocols aren’t important” and “pretending that those jobs are actually really easy and any layperson can do them” are uh. Not good solutions.

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Crazy concept: The Sound Five having fun and hanging out, buying dorky shirts and pissing off Sakon and Ukon

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so don’t get me wrong because a lot of arthurian stuff is super misogynistic. but it’s never really in the damsel in distress way you expect. like the most helpless damsel is lancelot trapped and crying in a tower, completely useless, until this random girl who made him behead a guy in front of her fifty pages ago rolls up with a pickax and rope and is like “ok I’m minecrafting you out of here.” and this works.

Chai tea bag + lil but of brown sugar + apple cider packet + 16 oz. mug of hot but not quite boiling water

it will not Fix You but like. maybe. maybe.

Self-Care Master Post

So, I’ve realized that I have all these great self care resources that I use for both myself and others and I think having them in one easy accessible location would be useful, although several of the links may be repeat links, SORRY

Other Masterlists

The Big Relaxation Post (ambient noises, nature videos, databases, just for fun)

Coping Skills and Distractions (coping skills, meditation and relaxation, crafts, games, videos)

Recovery Resources (emergencies, finding therapy/doctors/medication, general recovery, substance addictions, restrictive eating disorders, binge/compensate eating disorders, binge ed/compulsive eating disorders, general anxiety, social phobia/anxiety, depression, family/friends

Self Injury Recovery Masterpost 

Hobbies Masterpost

Back to School Masterpost (languages, research, writing, reading, studying/organization, stress/anxiety, tests, class participation, software, self help

Back to School Masterpost (not the same as above!) (college, food, helpful sites, high school, mental health, resources, motivation, music/sound, school, stress, studying, tips)

Adulting Masterpost (cleaning, money, health, emergency, food, home, job, travel, better you)

Masterpost for Rough Times (crisis, relaxation, the quiet place, comfort foods, advice and tips, videos and movie, distractions, extras)

Deathshands Self Care Masterpost (depression, self harm, loneliness, anxiety and stress, bipolar/manic depression, hallucinations/schizophrenia, eating disorders, anger, insomnia, sexual assault, domestic violence, helplines, learn to love yourself, hard day?, more helplines)

Katelynn’s Self-Help Masterpost (General, self-harm, self defense, anxiety, depression, eating disorders, insomnia, bipolar)

Masterpost of Masterposts (writing, movies/shows, food, beauty, health, education, music, art, typography, sewing, languages, communication, adulting, diy, random, masterposts)

Self-Help Masterpost of Masterposts (Cheer up and relax, fun stuff, mental illness, self harm, films, general, in case of emergency)

The Tumblr Guide To Healthy Living (nutrition, recipes, desserts, clense/detox, veganism/vegetarianism, weight loss, calculators, exercise, feeling good, battling eating disorders, “inspiration”) I do NOT promote losing weight for the sake of losing weight, thinspiration, dieting, fasting, or any of that. the list is here for recipes and exercises. I am a strong follwer of body positivity and HAES. You are wonderful the way you are!

Food to Make

Really Nice Recipes Every Hour (Seriously, thousands of recipes- well tagged and great instructions. <3)

Chocolate Chip Cookie Dough Ice Cream Sandwiches

Banana Cream Pie Cupcakes

25 Hot Chocolate Recipes

2-4 Ingredient Recipes

Oatmeal Masterpost

Food On A Stick

Food in a Mug

Chocolate Chip Cookie Guide

Scotcharoos

Chocolate Baileys Mudcake

Fast Food you can make at home

Pancakes. 

Restaurant Recipes

Molten Lava Cake

Red Lobster Biscuits

Amazing Chocolate Recipes

Crockpot Beans and Rice

Broke College Kid Foods

Cookie Recipes

Reptar Bars

Things I Can Say to Myself When I Feel Shitty

Repeat after me

Daily Motherfucking Reminder

You still have

Fuck yea me

Emotional Support Bunny

I am Cute Too

Twenty Dollars

It’s Okay if you aren’t

Mental Grounding

I’m a Fucking Unicorn

Gold Stars

Permission Slip

I’m Proud

Remember the Sloths

Something Beautiful

Personal Victories Vest

Adorable Owls

You’re not unreliable

The Manatee

Motivational Cartoons

You are Good Enough

You are Making Progress

Shout Out

Puppy Love

Personal Qualities not Measured by Tests

Fat is Not a Bad Word

You are Not a Burden

I know you are feeling Sad

Eeyore

7 tips to free yourself

Bodies as Flowers

You Don’t Need To

My Pace

Note to Self

I will not hide

Kitty Loves You

Happy Monsters

I know it’s hard

Things to Be Happy About

Your Legs

Cute/Funny Stuff

Grover Does Science

Just Listen

John John counts with Grover

Classic Paintings with Sesame Street Characters

Best Song

Best Moment in Film History

Babies Experiencing Things

Low-Viscosity Rayon

Dramatic Reading of Rough and Ready

This Adorable Child

Women Rejecting Marriage Proposals (its funny I promise)

Snuff Dancing

Martians Discover a Telephone

Frozen- Everybody

Stretches for the “holy”

Fantastic Prank

Girl with the Twisted Face

Animal Therapy

The dog who can’t run

Baby Hippo

Animals being cute

Dog is Eeyore 

Cute Puppy/Kitty friends

Animals with the Vet 

This Majestic Cat 

Bunnies sticking their tongues out 

Cats sticking their tongues out

Den of Kittens 

Sloth Noises

Dogs in Leaves

Big Kitty

Puppies and Babies 

Puppies and Babies 2

Dogs Underwater

Cat Photobomb 

Cute Animal Pairs

Duck Tales

Newfies

Animals of Tumblr

Dogs with their Babies

Fat Cats

Bunnies

Giant Lap Dogs

Dog Shaming

Dog Shaming 2

Animal Thieves 

Baby Animals

Dogs Being Dogs

Dogs Being Dogs 2

Dancing Cats

Cat Conversations

Popular Puppy Breeds

Cats and Technology

Big Cats

Giant Barks and Tiny Meows

Animals are Great

Silky Anteater

Kitties Being Kitties

Kitties Being Kitties 2

Mama and Baby Animals

Cute Puppies

Animals using Animals as Pillows

Dealing with Assault/Trauma/Abuse

No is a complete sentence.

Self-care after rape

Resources for Male Survivors

Help for Men

Signs of Emotional Abuse

Coping with Flashbacks

For Survivors and Loved Ones

Things No One Told me about being a Survivor

Are You Disassociating? 

Depression/Anxiety/Panic and Hotlines

Online suicide hotline (not 24/7) 

Virtual Hug/Hotlines

Hotline Numbers

Panic and Anxiety Masterpost

Anxiety Masterpost

Letting It Out

50 Alternatives to Self-Harm

What to do when someone has a Panic Attack

Anxiety and Helping Someone Cope

How to Help Someone with Depression

Anxiety: A Self-Help Masterpost

Butterfly Project

Distractions

Randomish distractions

Websites for when you want to…

Free Audio Books

Education at your fingertips

Educational Websites

Documentaries

Ambient Noise Masterlist

Stain Solutions

Art Masterpost

BAMF Women

Shower Thoughts with Nick Offerman

Apps for Students

Every Episode of Hey Arnold

Teen Movie 8Tracks

College Textbooks for Free

Book Resources

Download Free Books

Drawing Masterpost

Disney/Pixar masterpost

Disney Movies Alphabetically Listed

Disney Movies You’ve Never Heard Of

Useful Sites for Movie Lovers

Movie Night Masterpost

Free Classes at MIT

Finals Survival Guide

Visual Glossaries

Relaxation Stuff

All of Bill Nye the Science Guy

You’re Getting Old

Cool Sites

Skymall Catalog

List of Distractions

Have Another

And Another

And Another

No really, I insist

Just One More

Emotions and Coping

Emotions Chart

Self Care Bingo

Coping Skills Toolbox

Showering when you don’t have spoons

Breathing Technique

Techniques for a Panic Attack

Emotional Baggage Check

Degrees of Emotion

Recovery Binder Masterpost

DBT Handbook

How to Deal with Lonliness

Self Care Cheat Sheet

Coping with Overwhelming Emotions

Feeling Weighed Down?

Misc.

30 Day Positivity Challenge

Trans Resources

Tips for Dealing with People in Pain

Ways to be an Ally to non-Monosexual People

Lowest Prices for Prescriptions

App to help recover from Eating Disorders

Contraceptives Masterpost

Dealing with Worst Case Scenario 

New Kind of Workout

DMAB Masterpost

So your friend has a chronic Illness or Disability

Having a Friend with Chronic Illness

HabitRPG

Education for Cis allies

Trans Resources

Cheap Travel for Students