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I am a woman and I view myself as a piece of meat. When someone looks at me in the street, I assume they want to fuck me non stop. But I can’t change the way others see me, I can only change how I see mayself, and what this means to the way I present myself to the world. I am not a piece of meat, and mybe they think my hair looks a little bit weird.
Why did someone send me this and claim it was proof women’s rights were under attack?
Yeah women aren’t the only caregiver and often due to socialization they push males out of parenting roles and often undermine males in these situations.
It’s actually part of the whole “women have historically been the child raisers” narrative. As a society women see themselves as the only ones who know how to raise kids and we even specifically use women as symbols of good parents despite men being statistically just as good at parenting.
You aren’t being attacked by this and if you see this as an attack you are a brainwashed idiot who thinks women’s only role is a walking womb who is meant to push out spawn and then raise them while the rock person you are married too go and dies in a war or something.
Toxic moms vs Good Fathers
The Crucial Role of Fathers in Child Development and Overcoming Maternal Gatekeeping
As a psychotherapist, I've observed firsthand how deeply impactful a father's role is in a child's emotional, psychological, and behavioral development. Current research underscores the importance of paternal involvement, highlighting the structured, authoritative approach fathers commonly adopt, characterized by clear expectations, discipline, and consistent guidance. These aspects of fatherhood foster independence, emotional resilience, and social competence in children (Frontiers in Psychology, 2022).
Why Fathers are Essential
Fathers uniquely contribute to children's growth through structured play and consistent discipline, significantly influencing children's emotional regulation, academic performance, and social interactions. Research shows that children with engaged fathers exhibit improved cognitive development, better behavioral outcomes, and enhanced emotional stability. Conversely, the absence of a father correlates strongly with increased risks for mood disorders, behavioral problems, and difficulties with emotional regulation (PMC, 2023).
Understanding Toxic Maternal Gatekeeping
While mothers often excel at nurturing, some behaviors, especially maternal gatekeeping, can inadvertently hinder a father's involvement. Maternal gatekeeping refers to behaviors where a mother may limit or restrict the father's access to the child, often through criticism, control, or undermining his parenting efforts. This behavior frequently stems from unresolved attachment issues, emotional insecurity, or distrust, particularly among mothers who themselves lacked a father figure in their upbringing (PMC, 2016).
Maternal gatekeeping not only undermines paternal engagement but can perpetuate generational cycles of absenteeism. Women raised without fathers are more likely to experience similar patterns in their own families, leading to ongoing familial dysfunction and emotional instability (Fatherhood.org, 2023).
Economic and Emotional Challenges in Father-Absent Households
Families without an actively involved father, particularly single-mother households, commonly experience economic hardships, increased stress, and limited social support. These stressors can negatively impact children's psychological and emotional well-being, highlighting the need for paternal presence to provide stability and structure. In contrast, single-father households typically report higher incomes and better resource accessibility, underscoring the socio-economic advantages of paternal involvement (Pew Research Center, 2013).
Strategies for Overcoming Maternal Gatekeeping
Fathers facing toxic maternal gatekeeping can employ several effective strategies:
Open Communication: Initiate respectful, non-confrontational discussions focused on the child's best interests.
Clearly Defined Roles: Establish written agreements outlining parental responsibilities and visitation.
Legal Support: Consult legal professionals early and document interactions meticulously.
Mediation and Therapy: Engage in mediation or family counseling to facilitate healthy co-parenting communication.
Parenting Education: Participate in parenting workshops to strengthen parenting skills and demonstrate commitment.
Child-Centric Approach: Prioritize the child's emotional health and consistently avoid negative speech about the other parent.
Strong Emotional Connections: Maximize quality time to build trust and strengthen bonds with the child.
Professional Support: Utilize individual and child-focused counseling to navigate emotional challenges and familial tensions.
Conclusion
As a psychotherapist, I've witnessed the transformative impact that involved fathers can have on their children's lives. Addressing and overcoming maternal gatekeeping behaviors is critical for fostering healthier family environments. By advocating for structured paternal involvement, supporting co-parenting strategies, and understanding the root causes of gatekeeping, we can significantly improve children's developmental outcomes, ensuring emotional, social, and psychological health for generations to come.
References
Frontiers in Psychology (2022). "The Role of Fathers in Child Development." https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2022.772023/full
PMC (2023). "Psychological Effects of Father Absence." https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5648344
PMC (2016). "Maternal Gatekeeping and Father Involvement." https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC4922533
Fatherhood.org (2023). "Father Absence and Intergenerational Patterns." https://www.fatherhood.org/father-absence-statistic
Pew Research Center (2013). "The Rise of Single Fathers." https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2013/07/02/the-rise-of-single-fathers
Source: Toxic moms vs Good Fathers
That entire first bit is you degrading women down to their basic components like a misogynist would. Why do terfs constantly insist womenhood is just “yeah womb and tits is about it” like it’s some own? Lady the patriarchy wants you to be defined by your biology cause it’s used as a weapon against women and historically has been the key point to oppression by the patriarchy.
You also don’t know anything about the titanic and you claiming the “women and children first” thing is about vulnerable class? Lady it was done that way cause of patriarchy. You as a woman under this standard is WEAK and panic prone therefore you were evacuated first cause you couldn’t handle the situation like a man would the stronger sex. It wasn’t protecting you so much as stating “women are too weak to handle this send them away to cry while MEN take care of the problems”.
You are so lost in your sauce you push the patriarchy like an incel or right winger. Go read some feminist theory and then try again cause you would get a zero in any women’s study course with this nonsense.
Women celebrating a gov looking at them and saying “you are defined BY YOUR BIOLOGICAL FUNCTION LEGALLY” should terrify all women. It’s a patriarchal statement to dehumanize women into their purely “biological” position.
It’s the same argument used to force women into being the child wrangler and keeping them out of societal positions throughout history. Why are so many women and “feminists” celebrating this like it’s some mega dunk? You are being labeled and degraded to “womb” every time you let a gov dictate your place in the world based on your “biology” as a woman and it’s disgusting and will only lead to harm for all women.
Sorry FEMALES but wanting to look good and use makeup is bad and you are bad for wanting to use it. No don’t argue about this you are actively raping women with your use of makeup as it’s patriarchy now. Cause using make up is bad and patriarchy and all that. Btw the people saying this shit are bio essentialists who believe a woman is only a woman if she has a fertile womb and produces kids but YOU are bad if you use makeup for whatever reason.
The true feminist take of course is that everyone should use makeup. Men, women, enbys and all genders should embrace using makeup when they wish. It’s not shameful or wrong to want to look a little special if you want to go out or just want to play about with it to make your features pop a bit more for whatever reasons as long as you want to do it and it’s not due to force or coercion.
context: she is triggered by a woman pointing out she was never taught how to use makeup and lamenting she was pushed into “inner beauty” stuff but never taught personal hygiene.
I can’t recall a single time where I’ve had to defend my positions politically and socially like a terf does.
They stamp their feet throw tantrums when you point out being anti LGBTQ and pro tyranny isn’t a feminist position.
Ladies you realize feminism isn’t “kill all men” and is “stop the patriarchy” right? When you reinforce the misogynistic stereotypes and standards of social norms like “women have wombs and are for breeding” instead of pushing back against these superficial and patriarchal definitions of womanhood you give power to the wrong people and sing away your rights as we saw in the US and will see in the UK soon with bodily autonomy rights being stripped away.
You aren’t pro woman you are anti man and it makes you act like an idiot and empower the likes of trump and Putin when you give legitimacy to their claims of “western degeneracy needs to be crushed”.
This is why it’s always morally justified to bully these losers and dorks. Just like maga or a Nazi they are unfeeling freaks who can’t be convinced of their own stupidity and reformed. Therefore bully them hard so they fuck off and die mad somewhere.
I know wine sales in the UK are seeing a spike right now cause Joanne (jk rowling) is smugly being a a racist white lady who just saw a minority get shot by police on X. weird she still uses a misogynist and patriarchy supporting website run by a man who raped several women and threatened to rape many women btw
Like she attacks LGBTQ people, pretends to be this poor wittle baby when she gets dunked in for having a man face and a chest so flat aircraft could safely land on it and then does that? Really Ms millionaire you wanna act like the biggest bitch who ever bitched and then act like you are a victim?
Why are feminists still supporting this person who 100% has a moldy vagina that smells of privilege and colonialism and is only mad cause her husband refuses to touch her anymore meaning she has nothing better to do then sit on her couch all day and cry victim about fucking trans and ace people (for some reason they trigger her now)
I don’t know maybe the constant attack upon women by the US and UK govs is more important Ms “feminism” and “woman’s rights”. I mean we saw a massive spike in women’s deaths due to roe v wade being murdered and she didn’t speak out or care at all from what I can find and she has yet to speak out against the mass kidnapping and rape if migrants in the US by the trump fascist regime
She is not a feminist and doesn’t care about women or girls she is a terf who just wants to scree and pretend she is a pleb being oppressed