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AHHHHHHHHGRJDHSUDHHEB YESSSSSSS BOTH THE REPRESENTATION AND THE X-MEN!!!!! TRASHY SPITEFUL MUTANT!!!!! 🖤🩶🤍💜 SCREAM IT FROM THE ROOFTOPS!!!! :]
i had to
Okay hi hello! Resident ace spectrum person of fandom space! I can confidently say that no it is not a recipe for eventual problems or break ups. I've literally been in a relationship for five years going on six this month. I found out I was on the ace spectrum about a year into dating my two partners and when I voiced that I might be ace I was encouraged to find out about myself. I was told I was still loved by both of them and it didn't change our relationship. If you find someone you really love and really loves you it won't matter to them. Sex is not integral to a relationship all the time and it shouldn't be the backbone of your love towards someone. Assuming that sex plays such a large part in a relationship is damaging for both asexual and allosexual individuals because it sets an expectation that you can only please and attract someone with your body and nothing else in the relationship matters (it's like when people say "your relationship is failing maybe you should put out more" or "was your sex game really that bad?"). This is not the case though, having an open talk about expectations of sex in a relationship and expressing your low, non-existent, or repulsed view on sexual activity is normal and should happen in all relationships even for allosexual individuals. It lets you know where your relationship stands with someone because if they truly only care about your relationship when they thought sex was on the table it probably wouldn't work out in the future anyways regardless of your view on sex. No one deserves to be put down or told that they have to seek out someone just like them (which is easier said than done) just to find love. Please if you share the same view as the person in the third post please take a second to reevaluate your view on sex and why you believe it's so important in a relationship that you think an ace person can't have working relationships with people outside of other ace individuals because I assure you we can.
one of my fandom litmus tests is whether or not ppl think asexual characters can be in relationships because some of y’all would rather write five paragraph essays explaining why you can’t ship them with anyone than redefine the way you view love (aka acknowledge rather than invalidate relationships that have no sexual physicality)
I just found out about a subreddit called r/actualasexuals where the whole thing is being a dick to people who don't fit their narrow definition of asexuality. I just wanted to let people know so they can stay away. Of course, don't harass anyone in that sub, because it doesn't help and it's just plain wrong. Just do everything in your power to stay the hell away!
YES SIR 👍
I'M DOING AN EXPERIMENT
To prove something to a friend, please
REBLOG IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES
LIKE IF YOU THINK ASEXUALS DON’T BELONG IN LGBTQ+ SPACES
Serious question and just to know :
Is there a country where arocace people can feel safe, are not discriminated against and are protected ?? Especially a law that protects us or etc ?
I know that anglophone aroace people talk about Denmark because there are apparently a lot of people on the aro and ace spectrums.
Just asking cause I'm fck tired of allo society every day since many years now and also tired of all arophobia et acephobia on social media in the first place. 💀
And in my sh*tty country it's always "lgbT", hOMo, bI and transgender. WHAT ABOUT THE D*MN + ??????? ALWAYS ABOUT ALLOS PP FCK DAMMIT. 💀
(Of course : generality =/= globality !!!! Cause I don't hate all allos pp obviously. Some are decents, respectfull , share same values as mine and infinity open mind.)
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My mood :
Second gif is for allos bigots, allo society and all their fck pathetic and disgusting sh*ts.
I hate you infinitely.
I had the reflection not long ago of why I was uncomfortable at school (regardless of grade level) apart from stress because of the oral to pass and being an introverted person :
Being aroace and have to stay stuck a whole damn day surrounded by allos pp horny asf and who will not understand me, who tell me about their s€x life (at what point do you think it’s fckin normal to talk about it as if it was a banal and interesting subject ?? Wtf ???💀) without taking into account whether it made me uncomfortable or not (I think they didn’t give a shit because it didn’t come to their mind, those dumbass...).
Being surrounded by queer pp but none of them had defended me when I had received acephobia from a straight guy one day and only watched the scene without saying anything. The fact that most of them with whom I hung out invisibilized or even forgot my aromantism by remembering only my asexuality (bitches I'm aroace dammit. I’m both. Not one or the other !) and couldn't remember or didn't know the definition of being aro or ace.
But the worst I would say is that by dint of receiving arophobia and acephobia in about twenty years in the face, as an angry person by nature and who doesn't appreciate disrespectful pp etc, I became allophobe...
But let’s be clear : I don’t hate all allos pp ! Even if I speak in general, be aware that : generality =/= globality !
I know that some of them are decent, respectful and open-minded and these are the pp I appreciate ! Unfortunately, I have never met someone like that before. Maybe one day...
So to return to the subject :
Am I the only aroace person to be uncomfortable at school ??
It's a bit rough sorry and sorty again if my english is bad, it's not my native language but I hope you will understand the essential !
Once I saw a comment on a instagram post about the ace, aro spectrums that said approximately :
"For me, all characters in any fictional universe are aroace until they show romantic and/or sexual attraction and I headcanon them as aroace/are part of both spectrums."
AND I AGREE WITH THIS PERSON IT'S SO OBVIOUS !
I agree
a while back i posted screenshots of a conversation with a demi friend who afaik is otherwise cishet and extremely not on tumblr. i guess he's just gonna be a recurring character on this blog.
here is me (badly) explaining the deal with unicorns and dragons to him, and a message he had for acespecs in response.
make armadillo ace a thing. do it for him.
wanna know why being on the ace spectrum is awesome?
Garlic bread.
Getting to eat garlic bread without anyone interrupting.
Confusing the straights when you get a partner (because people on the ace spectrum CAN HAVE PARTNERS) and still being acespec.
Garlic bread.
Did I miss anything?
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH EVERYBODY !!!! 🏳️🌈
100%
Other people having sex: 👍 have fun, stay safe, do whatever you want (with proper consent at least)
The very concept of me doing anything like that: absolutely not. Keep that far away from me. Do not think of me even.
Being a sex-positive personally-sex-repulsed ace is weird cuz like reading about sex? Awesome. Writing about sex? Not much more intolerable than writing about anything else. Sex is good. Sex is normal. Sex is only as important as you let/want it to be. Kinks are natural expressions of sexuality. Sexual purity is a scam. Bodies are nothing to be ashamed of. Sex work is no more exploitative than any other kind of labor. If you touch me I will throw up on you.
Shout out to my ace homies for dealing with the rampant oversexualization of literally everything in life. I'm allo (and also a pretty big fan of sex), and even *I* get bothered by it, so I wish yall a good, sexless day because you deserve it
i’m asexual.
one of my favorite types of fanfic is smut.
i’m still asexual.
my playlist is full of insanely vulgar music.
i’m still asexual.
i love making dirty jokes.
i’m still asexual.
i’m aromantic.
one of my favorite types of fanfic is romance.
i’m still aromantic.
i listen to a lot of love songs and attribute them to my friends.
i’m still aromantic.
i love playfully flirting with people i’m close with.
i’m still aromantic.
I've heard that dying a virgin is considered sad / pathetic so taking that into account I have decided to not die
Aroace culture is seeing people talk about how hot your favourite character is, and feeling deeply uncomfortable. And feeling even more uncomfortable when you see antis claim that you love the character only because they are sexy, while in reality it's because you see yourself a lot in them.