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Okay hi hello! Resident ace spectrum person of fandom space! I can confidently say that no it is not a recipe for eventual problems or break ups. I've literally been in a relationship for five years going on six this month. I found out I was on the ace spectrum about a year into dating my two partners and when I voiced that I might be ace I was encouraged to find out about myself. I was told I was still loved by both of them and it didn't change our relationship. If you find someone you really love and really loves you it won't matter to them. Sex is not integral to a relationship all the time and it shouldn't be the backbone of your love towards someone. Assuming that sex plays such a large part in a relationship is damaging for both asexual and allosexual individuals because it sets an expectation that you can only please and attract someone with your body and nothing else in the relationship matters (it's like when people say "your relationship is failing maybe you should put out more" or "was your sex game really that bad?"). This is not the case though, having an open talk about expectations of sex in a relationship and expressing your low, non-existent, or repulsed view on sexual activity is normal and should happen in all relationships even for allosexual individuals. It lets you know where your relationship stands with someone because if they truly only care about your relationship when they thought sex was on the table it probably wouldn't work out in the future anyways regardless of your view on sex. No one deserves to be put down or told that they have to seek out someone just like them (which is easier said than done) just to find love. Please if you share the same view as the person in the third post please take a second to reevaluate your view on sex and why you believe it's so important in a relationship that you think an ace person can't have working relationships with people outside of other ace individuals because I assure you we can.
one of my fandom litmus tests is whether or not ppl think asexual characters can be in relationships because some of y’all would rather write five paragraph essays explaining why you can’t ship them with anyone than redefine the way you view love (aka acknowledge rather than invalidate relationships that have no sexual physicality)